What do I do now?

I am a single working woman 30 years old and employed with a big company here. For the past six months, I have been working closely with Nestor, who was assigned to my department. He and I are often together doing field work. We have become close due to the long periods that we are together. He confided in me that he was once engaged to a girl from Capiz, his hometown. The girl jilted him when she fell for another man, and it broke his heart. He said he never fell in love again after that traumatic experience. I felt sorry for him and told him so. We became closer after that.

Soon, I found myself falling for Nestor as he is such a kind and thoughtful person. We would go to attend fiestas in other towns and we even went to Iloilo for the Dinagyang. I was so happy being with him most of the time. He was very nice to me but he never said anything about having any feelings for me. One time, in a moment of weakness, I texted him that I love him! I don’t know what made me do that as I have never done anything so bold in my life. I waited for his reaction but he didn’t say anything about my text. He acted as if he never got it.

Now, I am so embarrassed over what I did. I feel conscious that our co-workers are looking at me differently. Do they know? How I wish I wasn’t so foolish as to reveal my feelings for him. I’m so ashamed. Please advise me on what to do. Should I ask him?

EMBARRASSED

Dear Embarrassed,

Don’t even think of asking him. The fact that he didn’t respond shows that he isn’t interested. I am aware that we live in modern times and the old ways are almost forgotten. But I still think when it comes to expressing your feelings, it’s always best to wait for the guy to make the overture. That way, you save yourself from embarrassment.

Regarding your co-workers giving you funny looks, I think it is all in your mind. Unless Nestor is a cad, I don’t believe he could spread the news about what you did. The thing to do now is “dead-ma”. Stop making a fool of yourself and move on as if nothing happened. You could still meet Mr. Right someday.

Good luck!

TITA