I want my BF back!

Dear Tita,

I am a 17-year-old high school student in a private school here in Bacolod. My problem is about my boyfriend Jojo (not his real name), who is also a high school student. He is tall, well-built and is a popular athlete with a lot of girls having a “crush” on him.

I have an inferiority complex as I am morena (dark-skinned), and 4’11 that makes a lot of girls wonder what Jojo sees in me. They even flirt with him even if I’m around! This is the cause of our frequent spats as I do get jealous when he seems to be enjoying all the attention. He says I shouldn’t mind as those girls mean nothing to him, but I do.

Two weeks ago, I happened to pass by a fast-food restaurant where Jojo hangs out with his barkada. I saw through the big glass window that Jojo was talking to a pretty girl sitting on the next table. After a while, he stood up, then actually sat with her and they both looked like they were enjoying each other’s company. I was so shocked at what I saw that I rushed home where I cried and cried.

The next day, I texted Jojo that it was over between us. He called me to ask why and I told him. He explained that there was nothing between him and the girl he was talking to, as she was the cousin of his best friend. I refused to believe him and we argued until he got mad and said if I wanted to break up with him then it was all over between us.

Since then, he hasn’t tried to contact me anymore. I missed him so much that I texted him to say hello, but he didn’t answer. I regretted breaking off with him because I later found out that he was telling me the truth – she really was the cousin of his best friend. The whole thing was a big mistake. I feel so bad about losing my boyfriend when I truly love him very much.

I am so unhappy over our breakup. How do I get over this sadness? Does a broken heart really hurt this much?

SO SORRY

Dear So Sorry,

Your mistake was you were so impulsive. You shouldn’t have jumped to conclusions right away. Your decision to break off with him was done in the heat of anger. You probably hurt his feelings so much that he got fed up. Now, it’s the end of a beautiful relationship.

You ask how to pick up the pieces and move on? Well, for one thing, you should keep busy. Avoid the things that remind you of him. It will only make you moody and sad. Don’t punish yourself by looking at his photos or listening to your favorite love songs. Get involved in your school activities and don’t allow yourself to be alone and mope. One day, you will look back on this episode in your life and laugh at how foolish you were. It’s time to move on.

TITA

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