What should I do if he dies?
I fell in love with Hernan even though I knew he was separated from his wife Julia who went to Saudi to work. Hernan told me their marriage was very rough as Julia had a vile temper. My family and friends were against our relationship, but I was so madly in love with him that I agreed to live with, him even if my relatives were scandalized by my decision. Hernan showered me with love and care and I tried to make him as happy as I could, even though he was very much older than I. We both worked hard at making his business grow and we were successful. Money just flowed in and we renovated his house, adding more rooms and expandedthe landscaping of the big garden.
Three years ago, Hernan was diagnosed with prostate cancer. It was a big shock to both of us. I felt my whole world collapsing around me as I couldn’t imagine life without him. Fortunately, with proper care and medication, he didn’tshow signs of getting worse, so we both kept our hopes up that he would survive his ordeal. I devoted my time to taking care of him. Often when he didn’t feel up to it, I would bathe him and cook his favorite food so he would have the appetite to eat. He would always tell me how lucky he was to have me in his life and how happy he was with me.
Recently, I got to thinking of my situation after hearing the news abouta
prominent person who died. What if Hernanpassed away? Would I have to give everything up? Where would I go? It never occurred to me that this would happen so I never prepared for my own future. Now I’m worried that I might be thrown out by his wife, and I won’t even be able to attend his burial. Please advise me what to do.
THE OTHER WOMAN
Dear Other Woman,
Why oh why didn’t you insist that Hernan get an annulment and marry you?Had he done so, you wouldn’t be facing these worries now. If he should go, his legal wife would have the right over his properties, money, benefits and even make the decisions on his burial. You should have made sure you would be amply provided for if the inevitable happened.For your own protection, you should consult a lawyer friend about your financial status.