‘He still contacts his ex’

Dear Tita,

I have been happily married to Mando for six years and we have a beautiful baby girl, who is the apple of her Papa’s eye. He is so loving and caring that I feel like I’m the luckiest woman in the world.

The problem began when Mando went to Cebu on a business trip. I decided to clean his desk in our room because it was so messy. I noticed that he had left his PC on as he was in a rush and so out of curiosity, I decided to read his emails. Imagine my shock when I found out that he was in constant touch with his ex-girlfriend Linda, who was his girlfriend before me. Their emails to each other were so full of expressions of love and happy recollections of their past. I couldn’t believe Mando could betray me like this. I broke down and cried as I felt so bad that he had been fooling me all this time.

When Mando got home from his trip, I immediately confronted him about Linda. He tried to deny it but I showed him their emails, which I had downloaded. I was hysterical and I threatened to leave him and take our daughter with me. He cried and begged me to forgive him, vowing never to do it again. I decided to give him another chance although it was very difficult for me to trust him again. Even now, every time he is busy with his PC, I can’t help doubting whether he still keeps in touch with Linda. This has affected our marriage. How can I be sure he won’t be tempted again?

DOUBTFUL WIFE

NOTE: The names mentioned are not their real names.

Dear Doubtful Wife,

There are no money-back guarantees in marriage. It is a risk, a gamble. Sometimes, you hit the jackpot and end up with a winner – if you’re lucky. The only thing you can do now is don’t let your guard down. Be alert for any telltale signs of his straying again. But don’t keep nagging him to death. This is one way of driving him to another woman’s arms. Only time can heal the wounds. With time, the wounds heal but the scars remain.

Some woman can live with that. Can you?

TITA