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Bacolod City, PhilippinesSaturday, January 21, 2012

My partner’s exstill contacts him

Dear Tita,

I met Luis after he had been separated from his wife Lenny for two years. They have a daughter who lives with Lenny. It wasn’t long before we found ourselves in love. He is the kindest man I have ever known. He showers me with love and attention and I love him dearly.

I accepted him even though I knew we couldn’t get married until he could get an annulment. When my mother found out about our relationship, she got angry and warned me that I was playing with fire. I didn’t listen to her and instead Luis and I decided to live together.

I was very happy with him except for one thing – Lenny would keep on calling or texting him at any hour of the day or night. I asked him about this and he told me that it didn’t mean anything. He said she was calling him for assistance in her business and about their daughter. I find this hard to believe. If she really doesn’t care for him anymore, why should she bother keeping in touch with him.

One day I happened to answer the telephone when she called. She wanted to talk to Luis and when I told her he was out of town, she got upset and accused me of preventing her from talking to him. I tried to reason with her, but she slammed the phone while I was still talking. I was so mad at what she did. When Luis came home, I told him what happened and he said not to mind her as she was a hyper sort of person, which is why their marriage didn’t work. Up to now she keeps contacting him by text or phone.

Should I be worried?

INSECURE

NOTE: The names mentioned are not their real names.

Dear Insecure,

It does seem like the ex-wife can’t let Luis alone. She feels that the bond between them is still strong even if he has moved on and found someone else.

I’m afraid this is the price you pay for falling for a married man. He might love you, but apparently, he can’t ignore his ex-wife totally, especially since they have a daughter.

And why has he not tried to get an annulment?

He should have attended to it by now if he is serious in marrying you. If I were you, I would have to think about this and consider your options . He can’t have his cake and eat it, too.

TITA

 

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