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Bacolod City, PhilippinesWednesday, July 11, 2012

My brother is uncontrollable

Dear Tita,

My problem is Joey, the youngest in the family and our only brother.

My sister Annie and I are worried because Joey, who is 19 years old, has become so abusive and uncontrollable, that our widowed mother, who is in her 70s and has a heart problem, is constantly fearful that he might do something terrible.

He wasn’t always like this. He used to be a loving and mischievous boy, who made us laugh and was the apple of our parents’ eyes. But things changed when he turned 19. Ever since our father died of stroke, Joey changed abruptly. We suspect that he might be doing drugs since he started going out with a bunch of out-of-school youths who are known drug users. He began staying out all night and coming home drunk and disorderly.

Mama tried to hide it from us but the maids told us what was happening with Joey. He rebelled against our mother and would throw things in the house when she wouldn’t give him money. When he came home drunk, he would become so abusive, shouting at our mother and the maids.

Annie and I are both married and we both have babies less than a year old. We can’t keep on checking on Joey all the time. The last time we confronted him, he shouted at us and slammed the door when he left. We told Mama not to give him money anymore but she is afraid of what Joey might do.

We are both so worried about our Mama’s deteriorating health as she is under stress most of the time. She doesn’t want anything bad to happen to Joey and pleaded with us not to report him as a drug user.

What can we do with him?


Dear Concerned Sister,

If you have some male relatives who can help control Joey, this is the time to ask their help. Joey needs to go to rehab for his drug problem. Your father’s death must have affected him so much that he turned to drugs with the help of his drug-using friends.

You have to shield your mother from him so he won’t get money from her to buy drugs. Tell her this is necessary so he can be rehabilitated. He is banking on her protective attitude towards him, that’s why he is so abusive.

Make him realize what his life would be like without your mother around anymore. The entire family must help in solving the problem about Joey. He has been coddled for so long that it would take a lot of effort to transform him back to the nice boy that he was.


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Rotary Central
holds mission

Residents of Barangay 2 in the city benefited from the dental mission conducted by the Rotary Club of Bacolod Central at the Andres Bonifacio Elementary School II gym recently, its press release said.

The mission was spearheaded by dentist-couple Jing and Paul Brian Mendez, immediate past president of the club, and fully supported by the Centralians led by Robert Aguillon.

Forty-nine residents were treated to free dental checkup and extractions, and were briefed on proper dental care, the press release said.

The Centralians also recently distributed 250 school bags and supplies donated by District 3600 of South Korea to pupils of ABES II, the adopted school of the club.

The pupils, who were treated to a party after the distribution, are recipients of various literacy programs of the club, like books for the library and the dictionary drive. The club also installed a drinking fountain in the school, the press release added.*

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Indigenous farmers
plant trees in Murcia

Indigenous farmers and senior citizens of Brgy. Damsite in Murcia town, Negros Occidental, planted seedlings in a two-hectare lot in the barangay recently, its president, Rene Villarosa, said in a press release.

The activity was conducted at the river bank near the dam in the barangay to prevent flashflood and soil erosion, with the Provincial Environment Management Office providing the lawa-an, bangkal, and lanitga seedlings, the press release also said.

Villarosa said he hopes that the project will be replicated by other indigenous organizations and senior citizens to help save the environment.

The activity was supported by Murcia Mayor Andrew Montelibano and Rep. Alfredo Abelardo Benitez(Neg. Occ., 3rd District), he said, adding that they also received one sack of rice from the Sangguniang Bayan of Murcia, the press release said.*

Rotary Central holds mission
Indigenous farmers plant trees in Murcia
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