My husband
fell out of love

Dear Tita,

I married my husband Roy (not his real name), when I was twenty-five years old and he was thirty-two. We were so happy during the first few years of our marriage. I had a nice job then but I resigned from the company because I wanted to be a fulltime housewife to Roy. We were so close and we hardly had any disagreement. I was so secure in my husband’s love that I didn’t foresee any problem in our future.

One day, I got the shock of my life when Roy suddenly told me that he didn’t want to be married anymore. I felt my world crashing down on me. When I asked him why, he said he couldn’t explain but he wanted to be free to fulfill his dream of going abroad and experiencing life. I couldn’t understand what he meant so I asked him if there was someone else. He told me there wasn’t but I didn’t believe him. The next day, he packed his things and left. I cried for days and I kept asking myself, where did I go wrong? I tried to be a perfect wife but my husband didn’t appreciate me.

After a few months, I decided to go back to work. Luckily, our office welcomed me back. Gradually, the pain in my heart didn’t hurt as much anymore and I began going out with my friends. Later on, I learned that Roy was living with a former co-employee in their company. The woman was pregnant with his child. I was so angry at what I heard because I knew her when Roy was still with me. I used to chat with her on the phone or when I visited Roy at his office. I felt so betrayed by this woman that I want to go and confront them. My best friend advised me against it. Do you think this is a mistake?

ABANDONED WIFE

Dear Abandoned Wife,

You are the legal wife. You have all the right in the world to your husband. But if you go on the warpath and create a scandal, what would you accomplish? The best thing to get even is to consult a lawyer and find out how you can assert your rights as a wife. You are entitled to support from your husband. Or you could even file a case of concubinage. Be strong. You can survive this.

TITA