She says she
regrets marrying me

Dear Tita,

I fell in love with Terry (not her real name), the first time I saw her at a party. I made sure I was introduced to her and immediately began courting her. At first, she was not interested in me and I guess it was because I must have seemed old to her. I was 34 and she was 21. But I pursued her until she finally said yes. My mother didn’t like the idea of my marrying one so young as she said it might become a problem later on, but I wouldn’t listen.

Finally, we got married on my 35th birthday. I was the happiest man in the world. I tried to make her as happy as I was by showering her with presents. Terry wanted to go out with her friends but I wouldn’t let her as I was afraid she might meet a younger guy and fall for him. I could see Terry was bored staying at home, but I hoped she would snap out of it.

One day, I got home early and went to our bedroom. I could hear Terry chatting on the phone and I stayed by the door so I could hear what they were talking about. I got the shock of my life when I heard her confide to her friend that she was really bored with her life. She said she deeply regretted marrying me as our marriage was no longer “exciting”. I felt like I was hit in my stomach. I rushed out of the house so she wouldn’t know I heard. I am so confused over our situation. What should I do to save our marriage?

OLDER HUSBAND

Dear Older Husband,

I’m so sorry for you. You love Terry deeply but it seems that she has lost her feelings for you. Maybe it’s because you are too strict with her. Try to ease up on your restrictions and let her enjoy herself once in a while. She is young and she probably feels you don’t understand her at all. Have a heart-to-heart talk with her and listen to what she has to say. Marriage is a two-way street. Sometimes you have to give as well as take. Hopefully it’s not too late to save your marriage.

TITA