My wife inspects
my personal things

Dear Tita,

My wife Lyn (not her real name) is 15 years younger than I and she is a bit immature and suspicious because there are a lot of pretty career women working in our office. She suspects that I might be attracted to them or vice versa as a lot of people say I am good-looking (ala John Lloyd Cruz, kuno!).

I find this amusing and don’t give it much thought but Lyn keeps on suspecting that I am playing around. Things got worse when her friend Char separated from her husband because he had gotten another girl pregnant. Lyn got all the more suspicious and she began checking up on me constantly: looking into my cell messages and the people I called. If I happen to contact a female, Lyn would blow her top accusing me of being unfaithful.

I would have a difficult time explaining to her that the female I contacted was in connection with my work.

She would also check on my e-mails, my wallet, restaurant receipts, etc. If she finds a receipt for a certain restaurant, she would immediately investigate who I was with. This has been the cause of our frequent quarrels.

I am now getting fed up. I feel like doing the things she suspects me of, because of her baseless accusations. Sometimes I wonder if I did right in marrying an immature girl. I feel like I can’t breathe the way she tries to control me. It is affecting my work and my business and social relationships. Lyn keeps embarrassing me by her unreasonable jealousy. What should I do?

FED-UP HUSBAND

Dear Fed-Up Husband,

I know just how you feel. It must be very difficult living with an unreasonable wife who doesn’t trust you at all. Whatever have you done to make her so suspicious? Have you ever been caught flirting with another woman?

If not, then there is no reason for Lyn to act this way. If she could only learn to socialize the way you do, you could bring her to your socials and let her meet and talk to the career women you know. The only problem is Lyn’s immaturity.

She just might embarrass you by acting jealous in public. I’m afraid you didn’t choose the right woman to marry. Try to ask your close friends to talk to her and make her understand that what she is doing is driving you away. Hopefully, she will see the light.

TITA