Was I totally wrong?

Dear Tita,

Like millions of Filipinos, I too watched Miss Philippines Universe Shamcey Supsup answer the question, would she give up her religion for the man she loves? When she answered no, the reaction to her answer, was so overwhelming that it made me wonder if I made the right decision in changing my religion to marry the man I love.

When Monching (not his real name) became my boyfriend, I learned that all the members of their family are Iglesia ni Cristo. It didn’t bother me at first even though our family has always been Catholics and I studied in a Catholic school.

The first time Monching introduced me to his family, I found them so nice and welcoming, that I felt I really wanted to become a part of their family. I knew that his parents wanted him to marry a girl who was also a member of their religious congregation, and I could sense that they were disappointed when he chose me. But they said nothing and welcomed me whenever I visited them.

One time Monching and I discussed our religious beliefs and he asked me pointblank if I would consider becoming a member of their faith. I felt so much love for him that I said yes. He was so happy and he told me that he loved me all the more for this. His family was so glad at my decision.

But after listening to Shamcey’s answer, I’m beginning to feel that I might have been too rash in my decision. Now I’m torn between my choice and sticking to my religious convictions. Was I totally wrong?

TOO EAGER TO PLEASE

Dear Too Eager to Please,

We all rejoiced and were proud at Shamcey’s answer. She is a strong person and she has the courage to stick to her religious convictions no matter what the cost. You say you have second thoughts about giving in to your boyfriend’s request.

You now feel you wanted to please him and so you readily gave in. I would advise you to have a heart-to-heart talk with Monching and tell him how you honestly feel.

If you are not convinced that you did the right thing, then you must do something immediately. He loves you and he would understand your situation. I know of many successful marriages where the couple have different beliefs, but they respect and love each other so much that religion is not an issue.

God loves all of us.

TITA