My brother-in-law pretends
he was faithful to her

Dear Tita,

Lucy, my older sister, was a wonderful wife. She was madly in love with her husband, Ray, and spoiled him a lot. Little did she know that Ray had been cheating on her since the first year of their marriage.

I found this out because my friends lived just a few blocks away from his paramour, and he was seen there with her at all hours of the day, or night. I wanted to tell Lucy about this but I couldn’t because she had a weak heart and I was afraid it would kill her.

Ray’s philandering went on for many years with different women. My poor sister didn’t know what was going on. I told our parents about this but they refused to believe me. My mother even thought I was jealous because they seemed so happy and I was separated from my husband.

Lucy’s heart finally gave way when she was only 52 years old, and she died never knowing about Ray’s infidelities. Ray played the part of a broken man very well and people sympathized with him, even my parents. But I know better because I found out that he has a pregnant paramour in San Carlos City, where he goes every weekend.

Lately, my father was planning to let Ray handle our family business since we don’t have a brother. I am against this as I know Ray will spend money on his women. How can I convince my parents that he can’t be trusted?

I have always been somewhat a rebel in our family while Lucy was the favorite. I used to have frequent angry scenes with my parents, who never seemed to understand me. This is a very difficult situation for me, as I don’t want Ray to handle our family business.

FRUSTRATED

Dear Frustrated,

It is unfortunate that you have a communication gap with your parents. And now that you need to convince them to listen to you, the gap seems even wider.

Perhaps, you could enlist the help of a close relative of your family to do some investigating so he or she could convince your parents. I understand why you don’t want Ray to handle your family business. If this relative could present your parents with proof, then perhaps, they would think twice before entrusting the business to Ray.

TITA