I can’t stop thinking of him

Dear Tita,

I am a 32-year-old married woman with two kids. My co-workers tell me I still look sexy and beautiful even after giving birth to my children. My husband, Ben, and I have been happily married for seven years and we have stuck together through the ups and downs in our marriage.

He is a homebody and likes to watch basketball games on the television, or surf on his computer until late at night. I am the opposite – I like to go out with my friends for a night out, or take short trips out of town to various resorts.

Last month, Ben brought his good-looking former school buddy, Carlo, home for dinner. We had a nice time laughing over their school antics and experiences. I enjoyed talking to Carlo, who was a very good conversationalist, having worked abroad for three years.

A week later, Carlo came bringing a package for Ben, who was out. I invited him to have a snack and he enjoyed tasting my fruit salad while he entertained me with his amusing stories. As he bade goodbye, his hands accidentally touched mine and I felt a spark of electricity go through my entire body. I felt a special chemistry between us.

That night, I couldn’t sleep thinking of Carlo. I imagined him kissing me and taking me in his arms. Even while I was at work, I couldn’t stop thinking of him.

The next time Ben invited him to our house for dinner, I felt very conscious of his presence and tried to avoid his eyes. I couldn’t understand this sudden attraction for Ben’s friend. This has never happened to me before. I know I should avoid seeing him but I can’t help wanting to see him again.

What should I do? I can’t tell Ben not to invite Carlo here again; he might get suspicious.

ATTRACTED TO CARLO

Dear Attracted to Carlo,

Girl, you better control your feelings for this other guy. If you give in to temptation, you could lose what you have: a good husband, your two kids and a happy home.

Remember, you are no longer a schoolgirl, who has crushes on attractive guys. You are a married woman with two children. Get a hold of yourself! Consider yourself lucky to have a husband who loves spending his time at home with his family. Other wives don’t have this blessing.

When you find yourself thinking of Carlo, snap out of it and get busy with other things. Don’t dwell on romantic thoughts of him. Always consider the dangers of being tempted. There are a lot of unhappy women who are now without their husbands and kids, all because they succumbed to a forbidden attraction.

TITA