Our new neighbor
is my ex BF!

Dear Tita,

Ray and I were college sweethearts and we were madly in love with each other. Our dream was to get married someday and have kids.
  
But this was not to be because Ray’s uncle abroad arranged for him to work there after he graduated. He promised to come back and marry me before he left. We kept in touch regularly at first, but after a while, his emails and long distance calls became infrequent until he stopped altogether. I kept sending him messages to call me to no avail.
         
Until one day, I learned that Ray married a Filipina nurse abroad. I was shocked with disbelief. He didn’t even tell me it was over between us! I cried for days and locked myself in my room until my mother got mad and insisted that I go out and move on with my life. It took a long time for me to recover from my heartache.
         
Soon, I met Carlos, a junior executive in a company that just opened their branch here. He began courting me until I found myself falling for him. After six months, we got married and settled down in a new apartment building.
         
Recently, the apartment next to ours got vacant and soon, the new tenants moved in. Imagine my shock when I found out that the new tenants were Ray, my former BF, and his wife! I was a wreck. I didn’t know what to do. I kept avoiding going out as I didn’t want to see him again.
         
Carlos noticed my odd behavior and he asked me what was wrong. I couldn’t tell him as I lied to him when he was courting me. I told him I never had a boyfriend. What do I do now?
                                                        

Dear Bothered Woman,
         
It’s time you told Carlos the truth. You shouldn’t have lied to him in the first place. But in view of the present situation, you must be honest with him.
         

Why are you so scared of seeing Ray again? You haven’t done anything wrong and there’s no reason why you should hide from him. If you do see him again, act as naturally as you can (even if your heart must be pounding crazily!). Don’t let him know that you feel anything at all for him. Be civil and polite. After all, you are now a married woman.
                                                                                                                  TITA

We received this letter from one of our readers abroad.

Hi dear Tita,
         
I'd read on Star Life your column article, "They don’t want me in their family" and I am offering UNWANTED to live with my elderly mother in our ancestral home in Talisay City.
        
I am working here in Riyadh KSA, and I would be grateful to get more information to get these things done.
                                                                                                Thank you,
                                                                                                Rolando Asuncion Jr.

Dear Rolando,
         
Thank you for your kind letter. I’m so glad to hear from our readers abroad. I hope UNWANTED reads this and gets in touch with me so we can give her your email address. Thank you.
                                                                                                                        TITA

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