How do I handle my ex?

Dear Tita,

Sammy was my first boyfriend and we were very close. I really loved him but I noticed that he was just too possessive. He didn't want me to go out with my friends without him. He would often make a remark about my outfits that he didn't like, and I had to change into another outfit, just to please him.

After a while, it became too much for me and I broke off with him. He couldn't accept it and begged me to reconsider, but my mind was made up. When I refused to see him or answer his calls, he began stalking me. He would appear suddenly wherever I was. It became too uncomfortable seeing him staring at me, that I avoided going out.

One day at school, I met Jessie, a student from Cebu. He soon courted me and I was very much attracted to him because he was the opposite of Sammy. Jessie was kind and easy to be with and he made me laugh. Being with him was so much fun that I agreed to be his girlfriend.

When Sammy heard of this, he would call me at all hours and I would hang up on him. Soon , a friend of mine told me that Sammy was spreading gossip about me, and he was telling everybody that he had sex with me when we were still on, and that I was “easy”. When I heard that, I panicked. I immediately called Sammy and asked why he was telling lies about me. He just laughed and said he wanted me back and that if I won't agree, he would ruin me completely.

Tita, I don't know what to do. Some guys now give me knowing looks and I can sense that they believe what Sammy has been telling them. I don't want this to reach Jessie as it might spoil our relationship. What can I do?

WORRIED GIRL

Dear Worried Girl,

It's time to tell your parents what's been happening.

Sammy shouldn't be allowed to destroy your reputation and get away with it. Tell your friends what he has been doing and ask their help to tell others that Sammy is spreading lies about you because you broke off with him.

There are guys who are not man enough to accept defeat and your ex is one of them. Hopefully your new BF Jessie, who seems to be a nice guy, won't believe his lies.

TITA