In love with my
best friend's BF

Dear Tita,

The first time I saw Junie was when my best friend, Annette, introduced him to me. I was immediately struck by his good looks and height. He was a good conversationalist, full of funny jokes and well-versed in a lot of topics. I could see that he and Annette were in love and, secretly, I envied my best friend for being so lucky.

Oh, I had some admirers too, but they fell short of Junie's qualities. Compared to him, they were dull and boring. I kept my feelings to myself as I didn't want Annette to know how I felt about Junie. It was a bit difficult as they often invited me to come along on their outings since Annette's parents were quite strict about her going out on dates alone.

We became close because of Annette. Whenever they had a spat, Junie would talk to me and pour out his sentiments about Annette, hoping I could help him patch things up. She would also confide her innermost feelings about Junie to me.

I tried to rid myself of my feelings for him but I just couldn't. He was everything I want in a man. Finally, I just couldn't keep things hidden and I confided everything to Lilian, another friend of mine. She advised me to stay away from them so it would be easier to forget him. I thought I could trust Lilian completely but I was wrong. Behind my back, she blurted everything to Annette, who confronted me that very day. I tried to deny everything but she wouldn't believe me.

Now, Annette and Junie have stopped talking to me. I feel so bad. I lost my two good friends and I blame myself. Was I so wrong?

BOTHERED

Dear Bothered,

You, my dear, were so wrong in confiding your secret to Lilian. You should have kept it to yourself. You were secretly in love with your best friend's beau, but you should have kept it to yourself .

Now the cat's out of the bag and you have been exposed. I can understand the torment that you are going through, but there's nothing you can do about it. Hopefully, someday, Annette can forgive you for falling in love with her BF.

In the meantime, move on. It's not the end of the world.

TITA