I suspect
something is going on

Dear Tita,

My husband Joe and I have been married for three years. We are both working and we don't have any children. My problem is about Joe's best friend Jaime, who arrived from abroad last year, and came from his place in Manila to visit us. Joe was very happy when Jaime showed up as he told me they hadn't seen each other since they graduated from college.

I welcomed Jaime and invited him to stay with us for the duration of his visit here. I expected he would stay for a week, but after the week was up, Jaime showed no signs of leaving. He stayed for a month, during which time, he and Joe were always together. Often, when I arrived home from work, Joe would call me up and tell me that he and Jaime were having dinner at a restaurant and that I should just have dinner at home.

At first, I just let it pass but after it happened lots of times, I began to resent it. Jaime probably could sense my resentment because he decided to go back home that week. It felt good to have Jaime out of our house, but I noticed how Joe missed him. They would talk on the phone often, including late at night.

When I had to go to Iloilo to open a branch of our company, I had to stay for two weeks. Imagine my surprise when I came home and found that Jaime was back at our house! Joe told me that he felt lonely while I was away so he invited Jaime to come back here. Up to now, Jaime is still here as he says he is waiting for an opening of their office branch here in Bacolod so he could apply for a transfer.

I'm beginning to suspect that there is something funny going on between Joe and Jaime. Is it unreasonable of me to harbor my suspicions? What should I do?

SUSPECTING

Dear Suspecting,

Before you jump to conclusions, try to observe their actuations at home. You could use your gut feeling (or woman's intuition), if there is any hanky-panky going on. You could also ask Joe why Jaime has to transfer here in Bacolod since he is from Manila.

It's time you tell your husband how you feel about Jaime's staying at your house for such a long time. He should understand that their constant going out together and leaving you behind, makes you feel neglected and alone. Any wife would resent this, and he should have more consideration for you. I hope your suspicions are unfounded but if it proves to be true, then you have to make a decision on your next step.

TITA