My husband is
attractive lawyer

I am married to a lawyer here in Bacolod. My husband Tom (not his real name), is attractive and very intelligent, that is why he has many clients. We have three kids who are now in grade school and high school. Our lifestyle is quite comfortable as Tom is a very good provider.

My problem began early this year when I found out that Cely (not her real name), Tom’s former girlfriend in college, had called on him asking for help with her legal problem. Her husband died a couple of years ago, and she had problems with her in-laws regarding the inheritance. When I found out that Cely has been going to Tom’s office frequently, I got curious as to her reasons for the frequent visits. I asked him but he said they had to discuss a lot of matters regarding her case.

I trust Tom as he has never given me any reason to doubt him, but I heard that Cely is a very attractive widow and it has made me insecure. I want to be at his office when she goes to see him but he might not like it.

How does a wife handle a situation like this? The old feelings might come back if they keep on seeing each other. He once told me that his former girlfriend Cely broke his heart when she married someone else. I don’t want to keep nagging Tom as he does not like it.

I’m so afraid he might fall for her again.

INSECURE WIFE

Whatever you do, DON’T NAG! It would only create a rift between you and Tom. Try to make yourself as attractive as possible and make sure your home life is something he would look forward to coming home to. If he is happy with you and the kids, then the chances of him straying is quite nil. But be sure you keep your eyes wide open.

Be alert for telltale signs of any changes in his activities – late nights out, fussy with his clothes and appearance, any change in his daily routine, sudden extra expenses that you don’t know about, etc. Try to be discreet about your checking up on him. It’s always best to be prepared.

TITA